why can't i be the little spoon...?

being one of the petite women out there, i've never encountered this issue until recently...

TheBoy being 6'2" (can't help it, i'm attracted to the tall ones...) had never really embraced the spooning notion with grace. Granted, we had lots of other issues to begin with (him being 11 years my junior, to name a few)...
i should've started suspecting so when we were watching movies on my couch and he'd cuddle up to me at my shoulders, putting his head on MY lap...

but the first few times when we're in bed chilling, and i try to gently nudge his shoulder with my face, you know, giving him the PDA go-ahead signal to 'come on over and spoon + cuddle me...'
what ended up happening was, he would start backing up... his back and shoulders and butt just moving on backwards until we were spooning - but HE was the little spoon. and he just fell asleep.

WHAT HAPPENED?!

that very first time i let it happen, and now i realize the mistake was mine - by not calling him out there right when it's happening (like when puppies being toilet trained and you didn't make them realize they missed the pee pads right there, then afterwards you can't punish them because they wouldn't realize what the fuss was about) - i had silently agreed that this was an acceptable behavior. consequently, every time after that (which was sparse and few between, mind you) - he would turn away from me, back himself up comfortable until i was once again the big spoon, and he's all snuggled in good...

but what about me? how did i get to be the big spoon here when he's a foot+ taller! my instincts to want to be the girly, feminine one - at least while we were cuddling - were washed down the drain. Being with a guy that always wanted to be the little spoon made me think - does he have Mommy-Issues where he wants a woman to take care of him? Hello, Oedipus wants his complex back.

as for now, part of the audition requirement for any guy that wants to be part of my cuddling life HAS to be that *I* get to be the little spoon in our spooning-situation. And if physically that doesn't work where i am towering over him or something - well that won't happen, let's face it, if i tower over you and am obviously bracingly bigger - well we won't be dating. pointe finale.

:)